Let’s be honest for a second. For a long time, I thought lube was something you only thought about if things weren’t working quite right. You know, the kind of thing that gets brought up in hushed tones at a chemist counter. But after years of working in and around the industry, I can tell you that’s one of the biggest myths out there. The truth is, lube is for everyone – whether you’re flying solo, with a partner, or exploring new experiences at a brothel like the one I work at.
The numbers back this up too. According to a study published in Sexual Medicine Reviews, approximately 60% of women have used a lubricant in their lifetime, and 25% have used one in the past 30 days. And it’s not just women – about 70% of men in the Australia. have used a commercial lubricant. The global personal lubricants market was valued at around USD 1.8 billion in 2025 and is projected to reach USD 4.6 billion by 2035. People are catching on, and for good reason.
So, let’s talk about why you should be using it, how to pick the right one, and how to actually use it properly – no jargon, just the good stuff.
Why Bother With Lube?
If you’ve ever experienced friction that was more uncomfortable than exciting, you already know the answer. But lube does more than just fix dryness.
It makes everything feel better. Research shows that lubricant use is associated with higher levels of pleasure and satisfaction during sexual activity. It reduces friction, which means more glide and less irritation. That alone can make a huge difference.
It’s safer. Using a condom-compatible lubricant can reduce the risk of condom tears, which in turn lowers the risk of STIs and unplanned pregnancy. In Australia, studies have found that condom breakage isn’t rare – one study found that 23.8% of men experienced at least one breakage in the past year. A good lube helps prevent that.
It’s not just for vaginal sex. Whether you’re into anal play, using toys, or just want a better handjob, lube is your best friend. Approximately 36% of Australian women have engaged in anal intercourse, and many use lube specifically to make it comfortable.
How to Choose the Right Lube (Without Overthinking It)
Walking into a shop and seeing a wall of lubes can be overwhelming. Here’s the simple breakdown:
| Type | Best For | Condom Safe? | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Water-Based | All-round use, sensitive skin, toys | Yes (all types) | Feels natural, easy to clean, but can dry out faster |
| Silicone-Based | Anal sex, shower sex, long sessions | Yes (all types) | Lasts longer, very slippery, but can damage silicone toys |
| Oil-Based | Massage, external play | No (with latex) | Can break down latex condoms – avoid if using condoms |
For most people, a good water-based lube is the safest bet. Look for ones with aloe vera and vitamin E – they’re soothing and gentle on sensitive skin. Avoid anything with glycerin or parabens if you’re prone to irritation.
How to Use Lube Like a Pro
Start slow, use more than you think. A common mistake is using too little. You want enough to create a slick layer – think more like a smooth glide, not a tacky film. Apply it to yourself, your partner, or the toy. Reapply as needed – water-based lubes can dry out, so keep it nearby.
For partnered play. Whether you’re at home or visiting a brothel near me, lube can take things to the next level. Use it for foreplay – a lubed-up handjob or fingering feels incredible. For penetrative sex, apply a generous amount to both the condom and the partner. It makes entry smoother and more comfortable for everyone.
For toy play. If you’re using silicone toys, stick to water-based lube to avoid damaging the material. Apply lube to the toy and to yourself for maximum comfort.
For anal. This is where lube really shines. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so you need a good amount. Silicone-based lubes are often preferred because they last longer and provide extra glide. Go slow, use plenty, and listen to your body.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Using oil-based lube with latex condoms. This is a big one. Oil breaks down latex, which can cause the condom to tear. Stick to water or silicone-based if you’re using condoms.
Not using enough. If it starts to feel sticky or uncomfortable, you need more. Don’t be shy – add more lube.
Ignoring ingredients. If you have sensitive skin, avoid lubes with glycerin, parabens, or artificial flavours. Look for simple, clean ingredients.
Thinking you don’t need it. Natural lubrication varies – it can be affected by stress, medication, hormones, and a bunch of other factors. Using lube isn’t a sign that something’s wrong; it’s a sign that you’re prioritising comfort and pleasure.
Final Thoughts
Lube is one of the simplest upgrades you can make to your sex life. It’s not about age, it’s not about “needing help” – it’s about making every experience feel better, safer, and more enjoyable. Whether you’re exploring on your own, with a partner, or planning a visit to a Melbourne brothel, having a good quality lube on hand is a game-changer.
If you’re curious about trying something new or want to experience how good it can be, why not come say hello? We’re all about making sure you have a great time, and that starts with getting the basics right. For more information on sexual health and lubricant guidelines, you can check out resources from Family Planning NSW – they offer great, no-nonsense advice.
Ready to put this into practice? Whether you’re looking for a bit of guidance or just want to have some fun, we’re here to help. Reach out and book a session – we’d love to show you what a difference the right approach can make.
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